Adult dating

Adult dating is a tricky thing, especially being a woman you get a lot of attention but you have to go through a lot of messages and profiles to find the decent guys and girls. I’ve been on several different sites and no matter what, you always get messages from weird guys (yes it’s mostly guys somehow).

I’ve experimented with mentioning that I’m a sex blogger and even telling in the first line that if you’re looking for an easy hook up that they should move on. And yes they still try. Just because I like to have sex with other people than my own boyfriend, doesn’t mean I’m not picky. Guys (again, yes it’s pretty much always the guys)  sending a one or two sentence message also doesn’t do it. Especially if you haven’t even taken the time to write a decent profile it’s not likely you’ll get a response. Even worse if they can’t manage to read my whole profile and the message clearly shows that they haven’t, I’m not likely to respond. Personally I don’t even know how they can think that might even work. Top tip: read a profile before you send a copy paste message to somebody 😉

I’ve found it to be easier to find people to have fun with online but it’s more tricky to find somebody who will match with you and doesn’t turn out to be creepy. That’s why I make sure I’ve talked to the person a whole lot more than just the general dirty talk. Anybody can do dirty talk typing, the real question is if they can live up to it. That’s why I generally talk a lot first and get to know the other person before actually agreeing to meet.

When it comes to meeting somebody I feel comfortable with talking to, I have no problem at all with that. I’m a bit chicken when it comes to asking people in person and rather be approached then do the approaching. Yes I know, I’m a bit shy when it comes to that stage. My name is Rose, I’m a sex blogger and I have trouble getting laid. Yes really. I wish I could be more straightforward, like the girl who asked me if I wanted to go home with her right away. I’m more cautious and rational usually but I do try. In a swingers club it’s easier though thanks to knowing everybody is there for the same reason 😉

Adult dating, is just like normal dating. You have to sift through a lot of weird messages and a lot of guys that aren’t worth any time. But eventually you will find some lovely people, just trust your instincts and be honest. Honesty I find very important, if a date says one thing and you find out it’s not true. Not a good impression at all. Personally I don’t understand why people would lie because it always comes out in the end. Especially big things like having a partner already and cheating. Trust me a girl always knows when you’re trying to trick her into thinking you’re single. And just like with normal dating you can get disappointed and even get your heart broken if you’re not careful.

When it comes to sites for adult dating, there are a lot of different sites. There are sites leading to others that even have information about adult dating and tips like XXX Sex Guides but more concrete there’s also ones like Fling (casual sex) ,Collar me (all bdsm) Alt (more bdsm and fetish)  SDC (for swingers) and okcupid (more mainstream but I like the features)  that can be used and I’m sure there’s plenty more out there. It also depends on what country you are in of course.

Just for fun, I’ll share some messages with you all.

‘Hmm you wanna know what my specialitis are about sex’

Yeah…no…

‘hello what’s it like in Amsterdam? Cuz am away to go there few months time’

Do I look like a information booth?

‘Hi, how you doing? Can we chat? ‘

Just as short: No.

‘Let’s sneak into the zoo after dark and steal the koala bears. ‘

I have got to admit, I gave him points for originality. But still weird…

‘Hi, let me start by saying I’m not going to ask for nudes or anything. Just want some tips on how to seduce women, since you’re an expert :3 ‘

Okay… I never said I’m an expert on seducing women. Being bisexual doesn’t mean I’m that of an expert on women all of a sudden.

‘well saw your profile and was gonna write a message to you 🙂 then searched your username on google.. found your blogs… checked photos carefully… enjoyed them 🙂 went to shower… and now i am your follower on twitter ! keep up the good work 😉 ‘

I’m flattered but why exactly are you telling me this?

‘Hello heavenly blessed beauty whose beauty is as timeless as those of the great pyramids. I would do battle with a group of hippopotamus with nothing more than a hand carved shank from a saudi arabian oil sheik, jump into a pirahna infested river with two rhinoceros beetles gnawing my testicles, and dive to the depths of the challenger deep with nothing but sarah jessica parkers queef’s as my air supply just to sit next to the guy who sat next to you on the bus in high school. ‘

Yes this is a real message I got and I was just as baffled and confused…. makes you wonder what the guy took…

Meeting someone fun online can be tricky, depending on what you are looking for. So far the most fun people I have met through events and Twitter. I do love meeting new people and with the right atmosphere at events there’s plenty of opportunity to meet new people. So what are you waiting for? 😉

TMI Again!

1. You’re on a speed date. You’ve got 7 minutes with the potential partner. You already know the person’s name. What are the first three questions you would ask?

Where are you from?
What do you do?
What attracks you in a person?

2. Have you ever participated in speed dating? Did you get a regular date/second date out of it?

Nope never tried speed dating, don’t think it’s a big thing here in the Netherlands

3. Do you participate in online dating? How many dates have you had as a result of online dating sites/matches?

I tried it once but not really my thing with to much fake people out there.

4. You are attracted to:
a. Who people are?
b. What people have?
c. What they can do?

Who people are, because a person without a personality is somebody that is hard to talk too. Nobody wants to talk to an airhead with nothing to say.

5. What “little red flag” will cause you to end a date or immediately decide this person isn’t for you?

When somebody is insulting and negative I certainly don’t go for a second date.

6. What do you feel you need to sacrifice or have sacrificed to be a part of a relationship?

Time is the only thing I consider something you have to invest in an relationship. If you don’t have enough time for an relationship something will go wrong eventually.
7. If you cooked for your date, what would you cook?

I would go either for my never failing lasagna or for a nice salad with feta cheese with a tasty piece of meat.

8. At the end of a first date, how would you kiss your date?
a. Press your lips against theirs
b. Gentle kiss on the cheek
c. Lots o’ tongue, like you’re on a tonsil exploration
d. I don’t kiss on the first date

Depends if I want to kiss my date, if I like the sight of him I wouldn’t mind a kiss 😉

Bonus: You just put up a profile on a dating site. You must describe yourself in 10 words or less. What are your 10 words?


Anyone care to guess what I would put up?

Car encounters on a date

After some chatting online and exchanging mails and numbers we agreed too meet each other. We chose a city in the middle and set a time and date.
He told me that he liked lingerie and stocking suspenders/hold ups. I promised him to wear something sexy. He really wanted to know if I would put on panties and I left him in the dark with that.

Sitting in the train I was excited and a little nervous. He texted me that he was on his way and he was looking forward to meet me. I texted him that I arrived and he said that he was on his way. Standing at the platform waiting I saw him walking up the stairs. He was very sexy and the perfect height. We walked towards each other and we started kissing. He kissed me gently and he surprised me with his tongue

After we where done kissing, we walked out of the station and into the city. We sat down in the sun and ordered a drink. We talked, very relaxed and we got on pretty well. While we were talking his hand went over my legs and under my dress until he reached the edge of the hold up I was wearing. He smiled and asked if I was wearing panties. I didn’t answer his question and said that he had to find out on his own.
For the rest of the time that we sat there he tried to find out if I was wearing panties.

When we finished our drinks we decided to walk back to the station. While we were walking he put his arm around me and he slowly went lower and lower with his hand. Until he found what he was looking for; a thong line. Now he tried to find out what color it was. While we were walking we stopped and started kissing. The second time he pressed me against a wall and I felt his hips pressed against mine. He clearly was horny and he asked if I had time to come to his car.

We started kissing the moment we sat down in the car and his hand went under my dress. He wanted my panties and I let him take them off. Then his hand slid up my legs and he started fingering me while he felt that I already was very, very wet. I was soaking wet and he had to pull my dress down a few times because people were walking by. We decided to go to a more quiet spot with the car.

While we were driving, I kept rubbing his pants and I felt his cock growing in his pants. He kept fingering me and he even managed to hit my g spot a couple of times, while driving. We reached a quiet parking spot and we kissed each other. He moved me and he started licking me. His lips felt so good and his fingers went inside me. He wildly licked me and I could feel my orgasm coming, that was how horny I was. He sensed that I was close and thrusts his fingers wildly in and out. Moaning loudly I came and I started to undo his pants. Unleashing his cock I immediately started sucking him. He moaned and enjoyed my  mouth around his cock. I took his cock all the way in my mouth and started to go faster.
With a loud moan he released all his sperm in my mouth. I took it all and swallowed it. He loved it.
And that concludes my sexy story for now, I’m sure that we will date again and do more sexy, horny things.

Love and kisses to all,

Rose

Date with D part 2

While he went down on my his hands caressed my body. I felt his breath on my pussy and he started licking me. Slowly his hand moved towards my pussy and he slid a finger in me. After a while of enjoyment he roughly pushed me in the position he wanted me in and slid his cock in me.

He started pounding me and I loved it, the harder the better. He took me really hard and paused now and then for some slow teasing and kissing. After a pause he roughly turned me over and started pounding me from behind. He pulled my hair with one hand and with the other he rubbed my pussy. I loved how hard he pounded in on me and I became more horny by the second.

He turned me over again and took me hard. I moaned and he was close to his orgasm. He wrapped his arms around me and thrusting his cock deep inside me, hard. Just a few more thrusts and he sprayed his sperm deep inside me.

After that we gave each other massages and I teased him so bad sitting on top. Sliding my wet pussy over his hard cock without letting it go in. It got him so horny that he asked me to stop.

The rest of the night was full of more fun and orgasms.

Love and kisses to all,

Rose

Date with capital D part 1

Before I knew it I was waiting for D in the city. Just a few hours before we agreed meeting and we went through the options together. We could meet, go for a drink, go to his place, go to a sauna and more. We agreed meeting and decided on the spot where to go.
My heart was racing when I saw somebody pulling over and then I saw him. He was even sexier then in his pictures and he had a big smile on his face when he saw me. I probably did too. We walked over to each other and started kissing right away. While we were kissing, I smelt his nice scent and I felt his body against mine. My hands wondered over back and I felt his cute butt. Nice and firm, just how I like it.

We stood there kissing for a few minutes and then he stepped back and looked at me.
With heels on I was slightly taller then him and he noticed that. He didn’t suspect that but he thought it was cute.
Together we decided that we wouldn’t bother with going for a drink but straight to his place.
Arriving at his house I walked up the stairs before him. His hands went underneight my skirt and I paused on the stairs. He started feeling my ass and gave a kiss on my cheeks. I started walking up the stairs again and he offered me a drink. I took of my coat and took the drink. We kissed again and quickly decided to go to the bedroom.

We put down the drinks and fell on the bed. He immidiately started me kissing wildly and while I returned that our hands were all over our bodies.  His hands went under my skirt and he felt that I already was soaking wet. My hands went from his ass to the front and I felt that he was very horny. D started to stroke me while kissing and I moaned slightly.
He pulled my thong off and I took my shirt and bra off. I undid his buttons of his shirt and opened his pants.

We took off all the clothes we had left and we started kissing wildly. I could feel his passion and also could see it. He went down on me while kissing and I felt his lips on me.

To be continued.

Love and kisses to all,
Rose

Date time part 2

Finally I had some time to finish my experience with my date with a couple. 

We headed off into the town and decided to go sit somewhere to have a drink. 

It was nice and sunny so enough place to sit outside and watch some people on the go.
We sat down and I sat next to the woman and the man sat down on the opposite side. She was wearing a little dress that was really short when she sat down. While we were talking she pulled it up a bit so she could enjoy the sun some more. Al she had her legs slightly opened so he could peak. 

We talked some more and we really got along. They were nice fun people and had the same kind of ideas about life and everything. They both talked very open about other experiences they had and it got me even more curious about having sex with another couple or girl. 

Didn’t feel sexually attracted to them but it was still nice to share experiences and stories. 

Never hurts to be able to talk to people about sex, I think everybody should have people like that to talk to. 

When we were done drinking we decided to go shopping. She needed a bathing suit and being a woman who loves shopping I came along. The men had to fill up the parking meter so we would be alone for a while.

Looking at bathing suits and bikini’s I spotted some hot bikini’s and bathing suits and decided to try one myself. We headed off to the changing rooms and we took separate ones but on the opposite sides so we could see each other easily.

I slipped into the bikini bottom I took and opened the curtain and waited for her. She tried on several bathing suits and I even helped her with putting one on. 

It was pretty sexy to help her with her bathing suit and exciting too. Looking at the time I knew I had to go back soon so we hurried a bit. He found us in the store and peeked at her while she was changing too. 

Eventually I bought the sexy bikini top and she didn’t find anything she liked so she would continue shopping with him. They walked me to the station again and we said goodbye.

It was really fun and exciting and dating isn’t that scary after all!

Love and Kisses to all,

Rose

Date time part 1

Yesterday was the day that I had a date with a couple. First time ever I did that.
Which was pretty exciting.

We agreed to meet at a station, I went there by train and they would wait for me there. The day started with me taking a shower, getting all wet of course. After a lovely shower, quickly put on some sexy clothes. This was a skirt, a sexy thong, strapless bra and a sexy top. Also brought my blazer cause it was a bit chilly.
Took my bicycle to the station and stepped in the train towards the meeting point. We agreed to meet at a different station where they would be waiting for me. The train ride took forever in my mind, and I felt nervous.

We agreed that nothing had to happen and anything could happen but I prefer to get to know people first. I’m not the jump straight into bed kind of person. I might be tempted if the other person was really hot but then the flirting would be enough to get to know each other. Getting back to the date, when I got out of the train I was very nervous. My legs were a bit shaky and wearing heels doesn’t help then. I walked towards the meeting point and I saw them standing there.
Walking towards them, I saw the smile on their faces so I knew they like me. Only thing I noticed is that they were a lot smaller then me. (I’m a pretty tall girl with my 6’1 (1.83 in meters) and I didn’t see that one coming)
We said hi to each other by 3 kisses on the cheeks (that’s how it’s done in Holland)
And together we walked while talking into the city.

To be continued……

Love and kisses to all,
Rose