Adult dating is a tricky thing, especially being a woman you get a lot of attention but you have to go through a lot of messages and profiles to find the decent guys and girls. I’ve been on several different sites and no matter what, you always get messages from weird guys (yes it’s mostly guys somehow).
I’ve experimented with mentioning that I’m a sex blogger and even telling in the first line that if you’re looking for an easy hook up that they should move on. And yes they still try. Just because I like to have sex with other people than my own boyfriend, doesn’t mean I’m not picky. Guys (again, yes it’s pretty much always the guys) sending a one or two sentence message also doesn’t do it. Especially if you haven’t even taken the time to write a decent profile it’s not likely you’ll get a response. Even worse if they can’t manage to read my whole profile and the message clearly shows that they haven’t, I’m not likely to respond. Personally I don’t even know how they can think that might even work. Top tip: read a profile before you send a copy paste message to somebody ;)
I’ve found it to be easier to find people to have fun with online but it’s more tricky to find somebody who will match with you and doesn’t turn out to be creepy. That’s why I make sure I’ve talked to the person a whole lot more than just the general dirty talk. Anybody can do dirty talk typing, the real question is if they can live up to it. That’s why I generally talk a lot first and get to know the other person before actually agreeing to meet.
When it comes to meeting somebody I feel comfortable with talking to, I have no problem at all with that. I’m a bit chicken when it comes to asking people in person and rather be approached then do the approaching. Yes I know, I’m a bit shy when it comes to that stage. My name is Rose, I’m a sex blogger and I have trouble getting laid. Yes really. I wish I could be more straightforward, like the girl who asked me if I wanted to go home with her right away. I’m more cautious and rational usually but I do try. In a swingers club it’s easier though thanks to knowing everybody is there for the same reason ;)
Adult dating, is just like normal dating. You have to sift through a lot of weird messages and a lot of guys that aren’t worth any time. But eventually you will find some lovely people, just trust your instincts and be honest. Honesty I find very important, if a date says one thing and you find out it’s not true. Not a good impression at all. Personally I don’t understand why people would lie because it always comes out in the end. Especially big things like having a partner already and cheating. Trust me a girl always knows when you’re trying to trick her into thinking you’re single. And just like with normal dating you can get disappointed and even get your heart broken if you’re not careful.
When it comes to sites for adult dating, there are a lot of different sites. There are sites leading to others that even have information about adult dating and tips like XXX Sex Guides but more concrete there’s also ones like Fling (casual sex) ,Collar me (all bdsm) Alt (more bdsm and fetish) SDC (for swingers) and okcupid (more mainstream but I like the features) that can be used and I’m sure there’s plenty more out there. It also depends on what country you are in of course.
Just for fun, I’ll share some messages with you all.
‘Hmm you wanna know what my specialitis are about sex’
‘hello what’s it like in Amsterdam? Cuz am away to go there few months time’
Do I look like a information booth?
‘Hi, how you doing? Can we chat? ‘
Just as short: No.
‘Let’s sneak into the zoo after dark and steal the koala bears. ‘
I have got to admit, I gave him points for originality. But still weird…
‘Hi, let me start by saying I’m not going to ask for nudes or anything. Just want some tips on how to seduce women, since you’re an expert :3 ‘
Okay… I never said I’m an expert on seducing women. Being bisexual doesn’t mean I’m that of an expert on women all of a sudden.
‘well saw your profile and was gonna write a message to you :) then searched your username on google.. found your blogs… checked photos carefully… enjoyed them :) went to shower… and now i am your follower on twitter ! keep up the good work ;) ‘
I’m flattered but why exactly are you telling me this?
‘Hello heavenly blessed beauty whose beauty is as timeless as those of the great pyramids. I would do battle with a group of hippopotamus with nothing more than a hand carved shank from a saudi arabian oil sheik, jump into a pirahna infested river with two rhinoceros beetles gnawing my testicles, and dive to the depths of the challenger deep with nothing but sarah jessica parkers queef’s as my air supply just to sit next to the guy who sat next to you on the bus in high school. ‘
Yes this is a real message I got and I was just as baffled and confused…. makes you wonder what the guy took…
Meeting someone fun online can be tricky, depending on what you are looking for. So far the most fun people I have met through events and Twitter. I do love meeting new people and with the right atmosphere at events there’s plenty of opportunity to meet new people. So what are you waiting for? ;)